I think it’s totally true.
Yesterday I’ve conversation with my friend regarding the marriage things.. One issue is M.I.L issue ( not million issue or monster-in-law issue) . Pretty good she and her husband are staying with her M.I.L and F.I.L after marriage. Then the issue comes out.
She cannot stand with her M.I.L. It is like this, she wants ‘black’ her M.I.L wants ‘white’. She wants ‘the sun’ her M.I.L wants ‘the moon’. I hope u understand what I mean to say.
I am easy to say’’ why not you move out’’? . ..because I am not at her shoes .She has her own reasons bla.bla.blablablala……………..
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Generally the relationship between them is D.I.L and M.I.L. But then they still the human with different perspective. Relationship between human being never being so easy. So don’t blame each other. Read here how to get along with your M.I.L. One day, you will become a Mother- In -Law too. Then you know how it feel, alrite? So do not say!. In our culture we very respect our M.I.L and F.I.L. Even say their name also cannot.We must call them indai (mother) or apai (father). You cannot call her Unai. If you say the name , we believe that you got 'TULAH' ( bad omen) will happen to you someday.
I heard one thing.’’ Sejahatnya-jahatnya ibu kita, dia tetap ibu kita’. Pernah tak u fikir, apabila orang lain atau M.I.L yang berbuat jahat dengan kita kita akan teringatkan ibu kita. ( Masa aku tulis ni pun aku teringatkan ibu aku?. Ibu aku ingin pulang. .
My mama @ the young age..those know me .( i assume u don't believe me and please dun believe ha). Did you heard ''Like mother like daughter"?
Pic is protected.otherwise tulah kau kelak
My mama is a gentle woman .different from me. She never yell at me, and never in my life she put her hands on me ( i mean beat, canning) in watever conditions. P/S : Janganlah dera anak anda walau pun anda stress dengan dunia ini.
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I must admit its not easy staying with in-laws, I have been in that situation and sometimes its very difficult when they come in between the son and daughter in law. No matter what and even if they know their son or daughter is wrong, will still support their own children.
Things changed so much in my life and I am not being mean, but living without them is not the best but better. Sorry for this, just thought of sharing what I have gone through.
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